It is the MOST memorable wedding that I have ever attended.
As I said, it is AlWAYS the people who make the event special.

The Solemnisation – Till death tears us apart.

I was trying to hold my tears during the solemnization. You know, the warm and fuzzy feeling. There were so much going through my mind watching them walking down the aisle. I know she will be a good wife and mother. I know she will have a blissful marriage!

What the solemniser shared touched my heart so deeply.

“Hug your spouse and say ‘I LOVE YOU’ twice a day. Before and after work. Always leave your anger and stress together with your shoes outside the house.”

My favourite -“Don’t call each other STUPID. Nobody likes to be called stupid. If your partner says you’re stupid, tell him/her that because you’re so stupid, you couldn’t find anyone BETTER than him/her.”

Good right…:)

She (the solemniser) had a good sense of humour and yet, was very stern when she warned the couple that marriage was a LIFELONG contract.

Nat and Mike – MC of the night.

As I was watching the solemnization, I can’t help but to think – Have a divorced couple ever imagined themselves getting a divorce during the solemnization?

“XXX, will you have this woman/man, YYY, to be your wedded wife/husband, to live together in marriage, will you love her/him, comfort her/him, honor her/him, and keep her/him, in sickness and in health, in sorrow and in joy, so long as you both shall live?”

It seems so easy to say “I DO” and “I WILL”. Both parties are so determined and confident that they will commit to their pledges.

I used to think naively about marriage that once two halves of the same person join together, no matter what happen, they WILL NEVER EVER be apart.

Just in recent years, my perception towards marriage has changed drastically. Not because I have become skeptical or pessimistic about marriage. Rather, I have become more realistic when it comes to “managing” the marriage. A blissful marriage is through hard work, man! (Pardon my ignorance, I used to think that the blissfulness came with the package) *Sigh*

I mean, wedding and solemnization happens overnight. But what happens AFTER that is really a BIG DEAL.

Getting divorced is as easy as saying “I DO”. The same words that bind 2 persons could also separate 2 persons just like that – with a snap of the fingers.

Like my pastor said:“Love is not an emotion. It is a DECISION. You CHOOSE to love your spouse. Not just because you FEEL like loving your spouse. It is a COMMITMENT because you have chosen to do so.”

Well, the happiest thing (according to Mike) was none other than me getting the bouquet from the bride.

No, she didn’t throw the bouquet. She just handed the bouquet to me. WHY? Because others fled when she was about to throw the bouquet. *grin*

And no, my wedding is not in 2009.

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